Relationships... Organised (Guide Edition)

We spend more time preparing for a client meeting than for the conversation that could shape the next ten years of our lives. Relationships Modernised argues that’s a fixable structural error, not a character flaw.

Drawing on psychology, sociology, evolutionary biology, and attachment research — and holding viral relationship advice to the same evidentiary standard as peer-reviewed science — this book treats every close relationship as a system needing deliberate maintenance. Chemistry gets you in the door. What determines whether a relationship lasts is capacity: the ability to repair after conflict, tolerate real differences, set a boundary without cruelty, and keep showing up on hard days.

Across partners, friends, and family, the book builds a comprehensive, evidence-based toolkit — grounded in cited research and unafraid to correct popular claims that don’t hold up. Less self-help, more an operating manual for the relationships modern life actually asks us to run.